The Challenges of Parenting a Child with Asperger’s

Aspergers Syndrome

Having a child with Asperger’s Syndrome is difficult but not impossible.  While the symptoms are certainly not a result of anything your child did or didn’t do, he will still feel the consequences of his actions and behavior.

Here are some tips that will help you relate to your child with Aspberger’s.


One of the hardest things for parents to do is step back and try not to nag their child.  If there’s something that’s bothering you, try to explain your concerns to your child when she’s able to listen not in the middle of a meltdown.

Part of patience in this instance is to not cloak your child with your wisdom.  When she’s having a particularly difficult day, try to decide if this is a battle that needs to be fought or something that can be left for another day.  If you think that professional intervention is the only way to go, certainly make an appointment with your healthcare provider as soon as possible.


This may seem like an unusual suggestion, but see if you can celebrate your child’s humor, passion and, especially, creativity.  There will be plenty of times when his solution to a problem wouldn’t be one that you would choose but if it works for him, praise him and let him try.


This is particularly important with teenagers.  In order for your child to see the beauty and joy of negotiation, parents must model that for their child.  This goes for all parents but most particularly for parents of Aspberger’s Syndrome children.

When your child displays negative behavior, it’s usually because your kid feels like the world is spinning out of control.  Learning how to negotiate a truce will go a long way.


The effects of Asperger’s is not something your child signed up for.  Forgive her every day and forgive yourself while you’re at it.

Try to defuse and cut off any fights that may begin.  Conversations with your child can only happen when the tantrums have stopped.

Rewarding Good Behavior

This idea is very similar to one used in dog training.  Now, we’re not suggesting for a minute that your child should be compared to a dog.  What we are suggesting is that you give praise and reward the behavior you want your child to exhibit.  Make sure that this reward is immediate and consistent.


One of the things that trips up an Asperger’s child the fastest is change.  Make sure that you give plenty of notice before something in the house changes especially with routine.  Have a chat with your kid about what’s going to happen and what you expect of her as a result of those changes.

For Asperger’s children there is no past or future, only now.  There will be plenty of issues as you go down the road and the way to prepare your child for a successful and fruitful adulthood, is to set good behavior patterns early and often.

Asperger’s Syndrome is challenging at best and heartbreaking at worst.  But with some pre-planning and thought, you can help your child grow from adolescence to adulthood and live with Asperger’s successfully.

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