How to Handle Criticism from Another Mother

How to Handle Criticism from Another Mother

It’s hard for anyone to take criticism. Even when you know it’s in your best interest you can still feel defensive or even angry towards the other person giving it to you. This can be very hard if you’re a mother receiving criticism from another mother. How do you handle it? Here are a couple of ways to take criticism without things getting out of hand.

Don’t Become Defensive

If you’re receiving criticism from another mother, your first instinct will probably to go on to the defensive. Don’t do this! The other mother is not insulting you by giving you criticism. If it’s constructive criticism, they’re just sharing their knowledge with you. They have faced a problem you have, and simply just want to share that experience with you. Sharing criticism is also a way of helping you to become a better mother. Even if you feel the criticism is unnecessary, you can simply thank them and be on your way.

You Don’t Have to Accept it, but Thank Them Anyway

One of the great things about criticism is that you don’t have to accept it! If you truly feel the criticism is not needed politely say so to the other mother. Say something such as, “That’s a good point, but I don’t think that will work for me. Thank you for sharing it with me, though!” You don’t have to say that word per word, but something to that effect. This way the other mother will know you at least listened to them. People enjoy knowing when their opinions are taken into consideration. Should the other mother persist politely let them know you’re going to stick with what you have. At the end of the day that other mother can’t tell how to raise your children anyway.


Don’t be so quick to dismiss another mother when they give you criticism. For some people you may have to grit your teeth through it. However, give them the benefit of the doubt and listen to them. You may be surprised what another mother has to say. For example, if your child caught a cold the other mother may know of a way for your child to get better faster. Sharing criticism is also a way of showing concern for you. Mothers are natural caretakers, after all, and just want to be helpful to other mothers. So just let them speak, and then if you don’t agree that’s okay.

Don’t be put off when another mother hands you down criticism. Think of it as more of a harsh truth. Granted, there are going to be times where the criticism may not benefit you. You can always tell the other mother this, but politely. If you truly feel uncomfortable in the situation you can just leave the conversation altogether. At the end of the day no one can control how you raise your children. If what you’re doing works for you, then stick with it. However, if you’re looking to improve give the other mother a chance to share her experience. You might even find the criticism useful later down the road.


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