Teaching Your Child Self-Respect

Teaching Your Child Self-Respect

Teaching your child self-respect will help them strive to be successful. Their self-respect will determine many things as their personality, character and how they will interact with others. Your children won’t know self-respect unless it is taught by someone they trust.

For you to begin to teach your children self-respect you need to have self-respect of your own. You ultimately have to practice what you teach. Having a strong sense of self will give you and your children the healthy mind set to make responsible decisions and be respectful to others.

Tip #1

The first step is to love your child no matter what. Even if you don’t particularly like a certain thing you need to love them unconditionally. It doesn’t matter how old they are either they will understand feel the love and acceptance. You must always treat your children with respect. This shows them early on how to respect and love others too.

Tip #2

Have interest in your child’s life. Ask questions, get involved and most importantly play with them. Keeping eye contact with your child when they speak will show them how much you and how they can trust you. You want that with your child, you want them to trust you with everything because this shape their self-respect. It may not seem like a lot but to a child it means everything.

Tip #3

Expressing your pride to your children often, encourage them. Tell them how much you appreciate the chores they did for you or how proud you are of the B+ they got on their last math test. Look for small things to boost their self-esteem. Try leaving notes in their lunch box with words of encouragement. Small things like this will add up and show how much you care for your child and this will also shape their self-esteem and self-respect they have for themselves.

Tip #4

Teach your child that failing is okay. Show them how you fail, give them examples how you tried but still failed. Mistakes are part of life and you must instill this into your children. It’s not a good idea to give your child the fantasy that life is always full of good. Once your children know that the world is full of opportunities to make mistakes. This gives them the chance to learn and grow from their failures and get back up and try again.

This will create your children to become resilient. This will give your children the inner power to want to keep trying and achieving their goals no matter what. They will start to enjoy overcoming challenges and everyday struggles they might face. This will create a strong self-respect they will take with them into adulthood and their career.

Teaching your child self-respect is a simple as practicing what you preach. Give them love and acceptance and they will grow a strong sense of self. Treat yourself with respect and your children will lead by example.



Teaching Your Child How to Deal with Strangers

Teaching Your Child How to Deal with StrangersRaising a child today is nothing like it used to be. Doors are locked, everyone has a cell phone, and there aren’t any more pen pals. But there’s also more crime, more strange people taking children away and disappearing, and more concerns for your child. The old adage we all grew up on “never talk to strangers” means even more today than it did when we were kids. We could simply tell our parents that we were going to a friend’s house, and be gone for the rest of the day with no worries. Our parents could forget us at a store and still expect to see us when they come back, sheepish and blaming us for being left behind. Nowadays, people can’t even risk their kids walking to the neighborhood park by themselves. All for this fear of strangers. So how do you teach your child to deal with strangers? “Never talk to strangers” doesn’t really work anymore… after all; sometimes talking to a stranger is necessary.


Tell Your Child the Truth

It’ll be easier if you sit your child down and explain the truth to him or her as best as you can. Tell the child that there are bad people out there that would not hesitate to hurt him or her, and would lie to do so. Tell your little one that while there are many bad people out there, there are also good people, such as police officers and shopkeepers, so that he or she will not be afraid to turn to a person of authority if he or she needs help. If you are calm and matter of fact, your child will not panic or be overly worried. You are their parent, made to protect them, and they’ll trust and believe you when you say that while there is bad, there is also good.


Keep it Simple

A child can’t always understand the finer points of reading a human being. It’s difficult to understand who might be good and who might be bad. So don’t try to explain why a “creepy man” would be bad, but a police officer standing in the middle of a well-lit store would be good. Keep it simple so that he or she can understand who is worth speaking to or turning to in an emergency.


Have a Plan

To keep a child from worrying unnecessarily, set up a plan. If you’re ever not around, or if he or she gets lost, you might have to rely upon a stranger’s help, or a friend that your child has never met. Now, just anyone can walk up to your child and say “Hey, your mom told me to come and get you, she’s waiting for you over there.” And being a child, he or she won’t be able to tell whether it’s a truth or a lie. So set up a plan with them where if you are ever in the situation where you do need to have her picked up or found by a stranger, that there is a question that your child can ask them. For instance, a nonsensical question such as “Where is the bluebird?” As long as it is a question both you and your child know the answer to, and no one else, it will provide your child with a sense of confidence. If the stranger can’t answer the question properly, then your child will know that it is a “bad” person, and will head for a person of authority.



Dealing with Your Teenage Children

Dealing with Your Teenage Children

Teenagers are both a mystery and confusing. They’re not quite children anymore, but they’re also not adults. This transition from childhood to adulthood is a difficult and confusing time for them. Add this to all the raging hormones they have, and you have a recipe for disaster on your hands. Teenagers are not bad through and through, but they can be hard to deal with. So here are a few ways to deal with your teenage children.

Allow them to Pursue Outside Interests

Teenagers like to go off by themselves a lot. They do this because they’re not only trying to find themselves, but establish their own identity. One of the ways to help them through this is to encourage their outside interests. For example, maybe they have a passion for art, science, or maybe even writing. Find ways to get them more involved in these passions. Not only will this help them to focus more, but it will probably go towards helping them to deal with the stress of being a teenager. It’s not lie that teenagers go through a wide range of emotions during this time in their lives. So if they have an outlet for what they feel inside, let them pursue it.

Be up Front, But Firm

One of the things you’re going to start doing is to be up front with your teenager. They’re at the age now where they can easily tell if they’re being lied to. If you have something to tell them, just be direct about it. You also want to be firm when it comes to setting the ground rules with your teen. Also be sure why the rules are in place. Going with, “I’m your parent, I’m in charge,” bit isn’t going to work at this point. At least if you’re up front about why you’re doing what you do, and explain it, your teen has a better chance of understanding.

Be Reasonable, and Allow them to Give Input

At this point in your teen’s life they’re going to start questioning everything that’s around them. Of course, as the parent you are in charge. Your teen however will want to know how everything works in the household. Instead of shutting them down when they speak up, at least allow them to give their input on a situation. Give them the chance to be reasonable with you and offer alternatives. While you may not agree in the end, it at least shows your teen you’re listening to them and taking their thoughts into consideration.

Dealing with your teenage children can be difficult. They’ll have their times when they’re moody, friendly, or just downright don’t want to talk. At this stage in their life it helps to give them their space. Teens want to find themselves during this time, so allow them to do that. Encourage good behaviors and interests to help keep them occupied. It will also serve to give them a good push in the right direction.



Childhood Cancer: How to Deal with a Shocking Diagnosis

Childhood Cancer

The truth is kids get cancer.  It’s really sad that children have to deal with a disease that even the strongest adult has trouble with.

Here are some thoughts to help you get through the shocking diagnosis of childhood cancer.

Always Be a Team

Your first emotion could well be anger.  And sometimes the easiest person to give that anger to is your spouse or partner because you know they will eventually forgive you.

But it’s important to remember to keep working as a team.  If you have other children in the family, enlist their help as a team member for your sick child.

If that means or reading a book to your kid while some painful medication is being administered, then that’s what you do.

Try to stay as positive as you can and always carry hope for the best.  It may feel like that’s impossible but hope and faith can go a long way.

Ask Questions

Don’t be afraid to ask the questions that have scared you since you heard about the diagnosis.  Ask if any child survives that particular form of cancer.

You will need to be a team with those physicians and it’s far easier to do that if you feel you’re able to ask the hard questions.

And let friends and family ask their questions as well.  It may not be very comfortable but transparency will be your friend.

Staying Positive

This is, perhaps, the hardest part of the diagnosis of childhood cancer.  You may hear platitudes from caregivers like, “Everything is going to be just fine.” While your heart may not want believe it, it will be helpful if your head remembers it.

Take every day as a blessing.

Let People Help You

Friends and family may want to reach out and help.  Telling them exactly what you need – even down to preparing a list of tasks that folks can do for you – will help them give you exactly what you need when you need it.

Communicate With Your Child

Kids are so astute and they know when something’s wrong.  Be honest with them about the diagnosis as well as their chances for survival.

Let them see how you feel.  Instead of trying to be artificially strong, it’s perfectly fine to let your child see you cry.  That’s how they know how much you care.

Behavior Changes

As the diagnosis and treatment progresses, expect your child’s behavior to change.  Young kids may cling to you when, before the diagnosis, they wouldn’t.  Teenagers could become angry or distant and even withdraw from the family.

Encourage your kids to ask questions and let them know that it’s okay to be afraid.  If you can keep a daily schedule that is as normal as possible it will help your child feel as though they’re not being left out.

Don’t Forget Your Needs

Try not to exhaust yourself in dealing with your child’s cancer.  Reconsider your schedule and get help to get things done.

A cancer diagnosis is frightening but can bring a family together as they fight the battle as a unit.

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